As we grow older, we tend to forget that the most important things in life bring the best lessons you can ever learn in your lifetime. We are sometimes get blinded by how things seem to be perfect, but they are not always like that.
Sometimes, they can be the worst so they can bring the best in you, and that is how learning by experience starts. Whatever you are learning about as you grow older will soon turn into something that can make you contented in life already. In fact, what can build you stronger are the trials you will face before you reach the age of 20.
In this article, you will learn the things you should know as soon as you say goodbye to your teenage years. Being 20 is like entering a door where the real-life battle begins. And in order to survive, you must learn the most important things first and gear your shield and sword with them.
- Saying “Thank You” Will Not Hurt You
- “Sorry” is Not a Sign Of Cowardice
- There is Always A BETTER Opportunity
- Where You are Right Now is Not Your Final Destination
- Find The Best In You
- Appreciate Other People
- Appreciate Yourself
- Choose Who You Trust
- Your Efforts Are Not Wasted
- You Are Not Alone
- It’s Better To Be Alone Sometimes
- You’ll Find Peace in Silence
- Your Family Should Always Be Your Priority
- Do Not Worry So Much About Your Responsibility
- Peace Can Also Be Found Somewhere Else
- If You Cannot Speak, Write
- Time is Precious
- Invest On Few Friends
- Know God
Saying “Thank You” Will Not Hurt You
One of the things you can do to grow up happy is to be grateful for the most important things that make you feel contented in life. Though you also need to be thankful for not-so-happy things since they are the ones to teach you life lessons, acknowledging the good things in life and thanking yourself for being able to feel it is one of the easiest things you can do without hurting anyone else.
“Sorry” is Not a Sign Of Cowardice
You may feel scared to say sorry sometimes, but you should learn by now that admitting you are wrong is not a sign of cowardice nor defeat. In fact, saying sorry means you are gaining by experience, and committing mistakes, then being honest about them can make you feel as if you already won this life. In addition, saying sorry only shows that you are up to be a bigger and better person. Do not be afraid to do that.
There is Always A BETTER Opportunity
At 20, you might have found a lot of important things not being good enough to make you feel contented in life. Sometimes, you ended up losing them, but you should see your empty hand as an opportunity to grasp better things soon. Be it a better career or better relationship, one cannot find the right one if you keep on staying in your comfort zone.
Better opportunity is only available for those people who can wholly open their arms to welcome it, and you should learn to embrace the most important things in life than those who do not really matter.
Where You are Right Now is Not Your Final Destination
You are still young. You may be sad, broken, neglected, but it does not mean that you will always be here. If you are not contented in life right now, it only means that you are not on your final destination yet. So feel it. Feel all the negative emotions and accept them before turning them into your inspirations.
They should not bring you down in the first place. Everything that will try to emotionally and mentally hinder you from chasing what you really want in life. In the end, learning by experience with these things can turn you into a better and stronger person you can always count on.
Find The Best In You
Some of the most important things in life can be found within you — and that is your best attitude and talent. By the time you reach this age, you might have already discovered the thing you are most passionate about, and you should work hard to develop it. Forget all the criticisms they are throwing to you because they cannot really help you in any way.
Instead, you can turn it into inspiration to work even harder so in the future, you can stand up and show them the person you have become — the person who kept on learning by experience is a great person now who is contented in life.
Appreciate Other People
All these years, we are sure that you have encountered a lot of people who helped you to be where you are right now. There is no definite sign whether they will stay in your life forever or for a longer time, or if they only came to teach you something.
Regardless of their purpose, you should be able to take the chance to thank them for being part of your life and for showing you important things that you will carry for the rest of your life.
Aside from appreciating others, you should learn to appreciate yourself, too. Doing this does not only mean you care so much for yourself, but it is also a sign that whoever you are, you love yourself, and that is one of the most important things you should learn as you grow up. When you grow even older, you will realize that you only have yourself, so you better treat yourself life by loving every inch of you.
Choose Who You Trust
Of course, if there is someone who can serve as your guide, there are also be people who will try to bring you down. Trust is something you should give to someone deserving, and you can easily spot who you can trust by looking straight into their eyes and feeling if they are sincere enough to become part of your life.
Your Efforts Are Not Wasted
You spent the last few years building yourself and honing your talents to bring you the chance to be contented in life. There are some people who will not notice your efforts and handworks in building yourself, but it does not mean that your efforts are not important. You should always remind yourself that it is your future that you are building, not theirs.
So you should live your life the way you want to, but live it using the best and righteous way.
You Are Not Alone
There will be days where you will feel like no one is on your side like no one can ever understand you ever. But you have your friends and family, and they are all just waiting for you to approach them.
Telling yourself that you are not alone in this battle can make you feel even stronger and contented in life, and once you felt all these things, you will know that the most important things happen because you have so many people around you are tirelessly supporting you.
It’s Better To Be Alone Sometimes
There will be times that you will find comfort in staying alone, and that is okay. Sometimes, going alone in pursuit of learning by experience is the best one, most especially when you want to seek for self-growth. You are an adult now, you can explore more about your self to find the important things in life by traveling alone, or talking with your inner self sometimes.
You’ll Find Peace in Silence
Just like the previous number, you will feel contented in life if you can also find peace in silence. There are times when your whole world seemed to be in chaos, like everything around you is on the verge of falling apart. You should stand still and be the strongest wall for yourself, protecting your life from anything that can destroy you.
The peace that you can find in silence is one of the most important things you should discover. Once you do, you will hear your heartbeats more, and that is when you will realize that you are contented in life.
Your Family Should Always Be Your Priority
From this stage onward, your time will be more focused on other things — be it your job, new relationships, new hobbies. But you should not forget about your family, most especially your parents.
You are growing older, but your parents are not growing any younger anymore. Spend more time with them and tell them how much you love them. Time is only wasted when you are not using it properly.
Do Not Worry So Much About Your Responsibility
You may feel more pressured with your responsibilities now, but worrying so much about it will only bring discontentment and anxiety in your life. The most important things in life can be achieved if you take your responsibility at your own pace.
Do not force yourself to get the things you should not be getting yet. Focus on the present more. Once you think you are strong enough to plan for the future, then you can start little by little.
Peace Can Also Be Found Somewhere Else
As we have mentioned, peace can be found in silence. But it can also be found somewhere else. Peace is the feeling you feel when the most important things in life no longer become a burden to you. These important things now only give you the opportunity to learn by experience.
You can go on hiking or trekking, or you can simply do the thing you love the most. Keeping yourself at peace is one way of putting everything in order, and that is where contentment starts.
If You Cannot Speak, Write
Too often we get too overwhelmed with our feelings that we always want to say it loud. But rather than speaking and using words that can hurt people, let it all out by writing. If you got hurt, or sad, or anything, writing it down can help you ease the pain and the thoughts that are currently clouding your mind.
You know, having a journal can track your experiences in life. Once you reread them again, you will know that you have accomplished something without even knowing how. So write, write your feelings and thoughts until you feel like you are at peace now.
Time is Precious
It is accurate, and scary, how we can exist right now without knowing when everything will end. Instead of worrying, learn how to manage time and prioritize the most important things in life. As the saying always goes, time is gold, and it is one of the most important things you can give to yourself.
When you are 20, you will notice how the things that were once so slow to be developed became so instantly blooming now. Just like yourself.
Invest On Few Friends
You are adding more to your age, but you are losing more people — friends — as you grow up, but that is okay. Investing your time, effort, and life to a very few friends can eliminate or reduce your risk of developing anxiety since a few circles of friends can also bring peace. You do not need a huge group of friends to be happy.
You will know and feel the greatest contentment in life only if you let God rule over your life. Sometimes, we become so successful that we forget who is the one behind all our victories in life. At 20, no matter how many achievements you get or acknowledgments you receive, at the end of the day, it is always important to kneel down and take a chance to thank God who has been blessing you all your life that you successfully reached this age.
Fulfillment and contentment are the greatest when you know God, and you always have to look at Him and say how grateful you are to Him for giving you your life.